Ten things somebody should have taught me: One, do not romanticize suffering There is nothing poetic about a love that breaks your spirit. Two, know when to leave. Some bridges need to be burned Use the light to find a better way Three, practise forgiveness Start with yourself. Nobody actually ever forgets Remember the lesson. Four, say no. Do not negotiate with terrorists Do not bargain for anyone's love Five, friendships end. Let go, stay open. Six, save emotional real estate for the ones that will stay. Be soft, Be a safe place for the ones you love. Seven, create time for yourself Create something that will outlive you. Eight, do things that move your spirit Laugh. Cry. Pray. Nine, love yourself. As urgently and completely as you want to be loved. Ten, becoming is hard work Staying the same is even harder.